Renewal comes at a price though we seldom realize it unless it has been painfully been made aware of it it through drastic circumstances. It may come to us as the rebuilding of a friendship, rebuilding of a home lost to fire or natural disaster, or it may come to us as a binding together of those closest to us after a loss of a loved one.
At the end of the year as New Year’s Eve approaches, renewal is often thought of as a time for resolutions to start of the budding year in a better footing than we did last.
This year will start no differently than a lot of years have in the past. We will think of those we lost, what we accomplished and what we failed to accomplish, and other markers; the milestones from 2016.
On the advent of this New Year I would like to think we could all consider it a time of demolition. Strange word to use, perhaps, but think of it this way:
Everyday I go to work I drive over an overpass that has been here since I was a teenager and I think prior to that. There is a sidewalk on the overpass and the railing is made of the same sort of concrete…sort of column-esque, slightly decorative, and crumbling with age. The overpass is in serious need of repair despite the retrofitting it received 10 years prior. So in several months from now after the snow is gone, the task of tearing out the old, crumbling concrete will begin. Demolition.
I’m 59, that’s relatively young in most people’s minds (unless you’re a teenager). Nonetheless, I am in need of having the crumbling, bits of me demolished and reworked. I am not talking physically. Yes, I have wrinkles, but botox or a face lift is not my style. Yes, I could lose weight, but it isn’t going to be accomplished in the overnight rush to the gym with thousands of others that are freaking out this time of year. The type of demolition and renewal I am thinking of takes more planning, more effort than that.
What if we all decided to demolish the negatives in ourselves this year? What if we all made a concerted effort to get rid of the self doubts, the pre-judgement, prejudices, petty jealousy, greed? What if we all tried being just a touch nicer to ourselves and others this next year and demolish the absolute hellish joke last year turned out to be. What if we make a promise to ourselves to do just one thing nice for someone else starting the first day of next year?
What if we stopped a moment longer in our hurry to get to work and thought about not flipping off the ignorant guy that just cut us off? Yeah he cut you off, so what? Unless it caused you to wreck, what does your anger cost you? Doesn’t make a difference to that guy at all. You allow your self to be the victim.
What if you hold the door open for the person ahead of you or behind you, regardless if they have stuff in their hands? What if you just did something so simple as smile at someone when they look you in the face and say “Hi!”? What if you stop and let that lady cross the street instead of trying to beat that first foot into the cross walk? What if we decided to renew our own little piece of the world through the demolition of the negative and hateful behaviors of the past?
Simple sounding, right? It is simple, but it requires two things…watching and being present. The final part of this challenge…you cannot tell a soul about the good thing you just did. Don’t care if it’s tiny…don’t care if you have billions of dollars and decide to rebuild a whole village or town…YOU CANNOT TELL A SINGLE SOUL. No gloating, no pride.
Next day, make it a challenge to find two people or find some little thing…a smile…a compliment…a secret gift… that makes that one lady at work who never smiles, smile.
Now, how do you feel inside? Yeah! That’s what I’m talking about. You feel warm…they feel warm…they pass it on…you keep passing it on…daily…boosting your awareness to all day…making yourself play a game of “I’m going to make that person’s day” as much as possible every day.
The magic of this is that it is infectious. It does pass along like in that commercial, moving from one person to the next and so on. Through our act of demolishing the negative and renewal we can change the world in small increments that are so truly HUGE!
This is my personal challenge for you…don’t care if you’re a starving student or old school money. I dare you to make a difference this year. I DARE YOU TO RENEW!
Brightest of Blessings and pass those babies on!
Louise Ann (the pissy poet)